If He Knows, He Knows!

I sat down to write this after a conversation with a friend. She had just finished telling me about a guy she met at a random café. He wanted something casual—*nothing serious*. But now? He’s getting engaged to the love of his life. And she couldn’t help but wonder: Why didn’t he feel that way about me? Was I not enough? Was I not what he was looking for? 

It’s funny how quickly we, as women, turn inward, questioning ourselves the moment we aren't chosen. We start analyzing every little detail, every interaction, as if the answer lies somewhere in what we did—or didn’t do.

After the call, I couldn’t shake a certain thought: when a man knows, he just knows. There’s no hesitation. “No coulda, woulda, shoulda”. Whether it’s bending over backwards to get her parents’ approval, flying across the country to be there for her birthday, or proposing after just a few months of dating—when he’s with the right girl, he knows. He acts.

 

 

But here’s the real question: why do men stick around with women they know aren’t "the one"? Why do they keep us close enough to stay but distant enough to never really be there?

The truth is, men crave love and attention just as much as we do. But the difference is this: some can settle for the wrong kind, while others can’t. One friend tells me, *Men just aren’t ready to commit* and yet another is sending out save-the-dates for her wedding to a guy who committed in a heartbeat.

So, do men really fear commitment? Or is it that they only fear committing to the wrong person? Because unless you’re *her*, you’ll always be the woman he can *go to* but never the one he *lets* in. You could follow the unwritten “101 Ways to Be His Girl,” but with the right woman, that rulebook doesn’t even exist.

It’s funny but true: if you find yourself in a relationship filled with more questions than answers, you’ll never stop searching for clarity. But what if, instead of settling for the guy who makes you feel uncertain, you wait for the one who brings the certainty with him? The man who doesn’t make you question your worth, but adds meaning to your life. The one who feels like *home*.

So, it leaves me wondering: Men, when you already know what you want, why waste time with someone you don’t? Is it that hard to be honest with us—or with yourselves?

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